Friends With Benefits?
Message by Daniel Carandang
Written by Ashley Petallano
Robin Thicke's Blurred Lines is a certified head bopper.
Just as the opening tune plays, most of us are ready to groove, especially to those 'Hey, hey, hey' parts.
Blurred Lines was such a popular and well-loved song, it managed to reach the top charts and was hailed as one of the best pop songs conceived during 2013. But despite the head-bopping tune, do we know what the song is trying to tell us?
Let's take a closer look:
OK, now he was close
tried to domesticate you
But you're an animal, baby, it's in your nature
Just let me liberate you
The song's practically telling us that we should go all the way when it comes to SEX.
Yep, there's no point beating around the bush.
Thicke's encourages us, especially the girls, to let go of being the goody-two shoe and just go with flow. Besides, you are an animal, according to the song. Being domesticated like a good dog at home is boring! Be the wild sex-driven animal that you are and just go for it! He even sings in the chorus that no matter how much we deny it, we know we want it.
We live in a sex-saturated society. No longer are we surprised to see gigantic billboards of scantily-clad women endorsing cars or alcoholic beverages. The movies and TV series we watch treat premarital sex as if it's a part of everyday living already. We've already gotten so used to it that we are ignorant of the real deal.
What does God have to say?
12 You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything. 13 You say, “Food was made for the stomach, and the stomach for food.” (This is true, though someday God will do away with both of them.) But you can’t say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies.
1 Corinthians 6:12-13
There are two reasons why sexual immorality won't work:
1. IT AIN'T GOOD FOR YOU
A little background on Corinth-
Corinth was the Las Vegas during the apostle Paul's time. A thousand prostitutes roamed the streets. Some of them even filled their 'church,' used to worship the gods through sexual intercourse. Paul was reminding those Christians living in such environment to stay firm and with that, he also reminded them that not everything is good for them.
It's true: we can do anything we want. Nothing or no one can stop us.
But that doesn't mean that everything we do is good for us.
It's just like the case with fatty foods. There's nothing wrong with eating lechon kawali, chicharon, burgers and the lot. But it's common knowledge that if we eat such food everyday, we are most likely to go to heaven earlier than expected.
There's nothing wrong with sex.
Yes, you read right.
In fact, it was God who designed sex. He knew that humans would need such physical intimacy that He decided to allow it. There's nothing shameful about it.
Just do it God's way, meaning...in the context of marriage.
Yup. God designed sex for married people.
If we don't put sex in the context God intended for it to be, we're basically messing up with the design, becoming a slave to our carnal desires. Our bodies were made by God and therefore, they are for Him. What Robin Thicke says, about us having no control like animals, is a lie. We can, that's why we have brains.
3 God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. 4 Then each of you will control his own body[a] and live in holiness and honor— 5 not in lustful passion like the pagans who do not know God and his ways. 6 Never harm or cheat a Christian brother in this matter by violating his wife,[b] for the Lord avenges all such sins, as we have solemnly warned you before. 7 God has called us to live holy lives, not impure lives.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-7
It's not being KJ or legalistic when we're being warned against premarital sex.
When a parent pulls his baby away from an electric socket, is that legalism?
It's called love.
God's not a cosmic killyjoy, always wanting to make you miserable. He loves you, that's why He doesn't want you to get hurt.
2. SEX IS POWERFUL
15 Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! 16 And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.
1 Corinthians 6:15-16
Is sex truly just a physical matter?
Of course not!
Imagine two pieces of paper glued together. Then rip it apart.
The paper, as you notice, can never be whole again.
As much as some of us deny it, there will always be something emotional attached to the sex. Once it's all over, there's a part of you that's ripped off.
Girls, when a guy or your boy friend tells you that if you love them you should have sex with them, well they can forget about it. THAT IS NOT LOVE. That just tells you he's after one thing: your body. True love honors God, therefore, honors you.
So, how do we protect ourselves, girls and boys alike?
- RUN!
18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.
1 Corinthians 6:18
Girls, don't cause the guys to disrespect you. Boys are turned on visually and physically. If you want to be respected, it's about time you watch how you dress and act around them. Don't be surprised when they try to do something funny and you realize you're wearing the shortest skirt possible.
Guys, when temptation comes around, don't just stare at it. RUN! Just get away from anything that arouses you. FLEE!
For the both us, we should set boundaries. We think it's just a touch, just a hug, just a kiss but little do we know, it will lead to something more. There ain't such things as accidents- everything happens because we allow them to.
- REALIZE THAT GOD OWNS YOUR BODY
19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
You are not your own.
Our bodies are our temporary shelters while we're still on earth. We don't own them permanently. God made us therefore, our bodies are His. We should be mindful of this body He lent us by taking care of it and not just allowing anyone to do whatever they want with it.
Give yourself some respect.
You are special in the eyes of God and you should care for yourself because He made you. Use your body in ways that are pleasing to Him.
So, before you give in to anything, you have to realize that you are not your own. You're not an animal that can go berserk any time as Robin Thicke claims. Guys and girls should treat each other with respect, especially when they're not ready for marriage. It's best not to BLUR THE LINES.
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